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but it's on life support and I've just completed an experiment that doesn't bode well for its future.I spent a week on OKCupid under a female identity to see what it's like to be a woman looking for love online.It was frustrating and tiring, far more trouble than I could imagine it being worth for a woman legitimately invested in it. Initially, I was engaging with people, replying to their messages and asking questions.Ladies: I'm not going to claim some comprehensive understanding of the social plights of the modern woman, but OKCupid gave me a tiny peek into your part of the online dating world, and it's exhausting. The numbers are so overwhelmingly in their favor that I could kick back and watch my inbox fill with messages, no effort required after setting up the profile. But halfway through day two, I was having to comb through an inbox bursting with weirdness, deviance, and even cultural and racial insensitivity.I was so disillusioned with all the garbage messages I received that I actively disliked browsing the site. It's simply that the signal-to-noise ratio of it all dominated the tone of my experience.My messages were so undesirable that by the second or third day of scopin' dudes and alternately receiving offers for casual sex and gushy fanmail based on nothing at all, I was over it.She's operating under the handle "Four Strong Windz" because she likes Neil Young.As for the body of the profile (which you can read in its entirety by clicking on it above), I filled it out with feminine guidance from my fellow Business Insider colleague Caroline Moss. The good Take this guy, who seemed like a real sweetheart. He came on strong and wouldn't buzz off and then told me I seemed Jewish. I talked to Marni Kinrys, a dating and relationships expert who helps men overcome difficulties with women (she bills herself as "the ultimate wing girl," though she recently started offering advice to help women with men.) She recommends that her clients try this very exercise – impersonating a woman online – for the sake of experiencing what it's like to be on the receiving end of so many romantic, sexual, weird advances firsthand.
Once you read some of the below gems, I think you’ll probably want to run screaming to your nearest bar, too. MORE: 10 Weirdest Social Networks Danger, Will Robinson.
Frankly, I think e Harmony’s compatibility testing is probably smarter and more relationship-based than Ok Cupid.
The problem, of course, is that e Harmony took all the fun out of their questions and removed attraction from the equation.
My blog assistant sent me this link about the science behind Ok Cupid’s algorithm. 2) The way Ok Cupid weights importance is seriously out of whack (see in the video).
I watched the seven minute video and while I found it entertaining, I saw two big flaws in the way Ok Cupid purports to match you based on compatibility: 1) Ok Cupid has three pillars of their algorithm – what you think, what you want your partner to think, and how important it is to you. Simply put: what you’re attracted to and who you’re compatible with are two very different people. Irrelevant = 0 A little important = 1 Somewhat important = 10 Very important = 50 Mandatory = 250 A little important is BARELY scored higher than irrelevant.